My Hubby and I fighting about our 5 year old daughter?

I agree with your husband. Because taking her away from school is not really a good idea. She needs to come back and stand up for herself. If you will take her away from school just by that reason, she might grow up being scared and such. She can stand up for her own, I know she can. And I know that you know that too. Just pray for her and talk to the teachers to always keep an eye on her.